Mother of the Bride and Mother of the Groom Dresses

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My daughter has chosen burgundy/wine as her attendant color and she insists that the Mother of the Bride and also the Groom's Mother must wear this same color. I was hoping I could persuade her to let me wear a shade of lavender that looks great on me, but she insists that it must match the attendants and both mothers. Is this true?

- Sharon

Answer:

Being the mother of the bride is like having a leading role in your daughter's big day, and of course, you'll want to look wonderful, too. The mother of the bride's attire is a decision she should make with her daughter, but custom and tradition do not state that the mother of the bride or mother of the groom have to match the attendants.

Look to the wedding party for the degree of formality your attire should meet. The only colors that are generally off limits are white, cream, ivory and in some cases, black. Black is a more modern option or a choice for evening weddings if your daughter and her groom are not offended. Make sure to check before you buy that black dress!

The mother of the groom should take her attire cues from the mother of the bride in terms of skirt and sleeve length, and should endeavor not to clash with each other or the attendant's attire. Try to compromise on your attire with your daughter so there's no strain on your relationship; it is your daughter's big day, but you need to feel comfortable in your attire, too.



Dressing the Mother of the Bride for an Evening Wedding

My daughter is having a black and white wedding. I am the mother of the bride, what color dress should I wear? It is an evening affair.

- T.A

Answer:

Being the mother of the bride is like having a leading role in your daughter's big day, and of course, you'll want to look wonderful, too. The mother of the bride's attire is a decision she should make with her daughter, but custom and tradition do not state that the mother of the bride or mother of the groom have to match the attendants.

Look to the wedding party for the degree of formality your attire should meet. The only colors that are generally off limits are white, cream, ivory and in some cases, black. Black is a more modern option or a choice for evening weddings if your daughter and her groom are not offended. Make sure to check before you buy that black dress!

The mother of the groom should take her attire cues from the mother of the bride in terms of skirt and sleeve length, and should endeavor not to clash with each other or the attendant's attire. Try to compromise on your attire with your daughter so there's no strain on your relationship; it is your daughter's big day, but you need to feel comfortable in your attire, too.



Mother of the Bride Dress

How does the mother of the groom dress?

-Harley

Answer:

Although the mother of the bride is a traditionally more prominent component of the wedding, the mother of the groom is equally important. Both the bride and groom's mothers should take the formality of the bridesmaid's attire as an indication of how formal their dress should be. Ideally, both of the couples' mothers should come together to discuss their style preferences, color choices and general thoughts on appropriate attire. Colors to avoid are white, and in most cases black, and anything that will clash with the wedding party attire or the mother of the bride's attire.

Traditionally, the mother of the groom would take her cues from the mother of the bride's skirt and sleeve length, but this is no longer a must. It's important for both mothers to feel wonderful on their children's day. As long as you dress with a similar degree of formality to the mother of the groom, and the wedding party, you're in great shape!



Wearing Black

My niece is getting married October first and my sister has the cutest black dress with black cover. She thought nothing of the color, but then her daughter's mother- in-law to-be said that the mother of the bride does NOT wear black. It has been a very stressful situation. The bridesmaids are maroon. Please tell me if the mother of the bride can wear black or not.

- Candace

Answer:

Wedding attire can be a complicated area for mothers of the bride and the groom! Traditionally, the mother of the bride and the mother of the groom would not wear black to their children's weddings. However, today's wedding traditions are evolving to embrace all kinds of change. The old etiquette rule about white after Labor Day, like the rule about no black at weddings, has been phased out and replaced with less strict attire rules.

If the bride and groom are comfortable with the mother of the bride wearing black at their wedding, then the mother of the bride can go ahead and wear her cute black dress. However, if the mother of the groom is a traditionalist and terribly offended, I suggest making a compromise for the sake of good grace.

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